Tuesday, March 2, 2010
I have a 15 Year old daughter who is obsessed with having the right friends, clothes, hair, makeup, ect... Having all these things does not exclude you from the torment and abuse girls lay on each other daily. For example, girls these days size each other up within seconds of meeting each other. They comment on each others clothes, hair, makeup and who hangs out with who. My daughter came home the other day crying because she worked so hard to get her hair straight and when she got to school her friends said she looked better with curly hair. They also told her she looked better without her glasses and that she should loose the old lady coat she was wearing. How on earth did girls get so judgemental! Where are they learning this? Is it the parents or is it society. I mean take MTV for instance, everything is focused on materialistic things. For instance, the show "Teen Cribs" where kids show off there extravagant homes with horses in the backyard for godsakes! Or how about the show "My Sweet Sixteen" where parents throw lavish not mention outrageously over priced birthday parties for there teeny bopper. Kids see this and it gives them a sense of entitlement. Girls are definitely the ones hit hardest in this media tyrade. How about the show "Bad Girls Club" I walked in on my daugher watching this train wreck of a show. Two girls were beating each other up dressed like prostitutes. I immediatley put the parental block on. What message is that sending and thats on the Oxygen Network which i thought was like my beloved Lifetime channel. Everywhere you look whether it's you tube or MTV or in school girls are being mean and judgemental to each other. How did our girls become so jealous, backstabbing, superficial and just out right mean! I'll tell you though, this blogging community has given me some hope that women and girls can come together for a cause, even if its about a lipstick. We have the capabilities of being compassionate, friendly, caring and loving community. For now though i have to teach my daughter to ignore the mean girls and focus on the good girls! Most of us girls grow up to be loving wonderful women and mothers who know better. Has anyone had a mean girl experience? My daughter would love to know she's not alone!